What do you understand by the term ‘relationships’? Here, I’m asking about the bond shared by a man and a woman… as married or unmarried couples. Is this association already an understood thing by one and all or do we still need to dwell on its ‘real’ meaning? I guess, the latter one is more near reality.
People fall in love, get married, and then either they ‘live happily ever after’ or they plainly pretend they are still head over heels in love with their partners (but mind it, prevention is better than pretension… always) or sooner or later, they accept the developing discords in their relationships and part ways – mostly through obliging each other by signing divorce papers and ‘moving on’ in their respective lives with the ‘new’ discoveries called an ‘apt partner’. Don’t get confused with so many words guarded by single quote marks in the above sentences (and the ones yet to come throughout this article); as you keep going through the lines, the unwritten (read unspoken) meaning will turn as bright as sunshine.
Let me make it easier for you. Imagine this: A girl and a guy find each other perfect for themselves. They fight, they argue and they love. They plan their marriage, kids, careers, future. They again fight, again argue and again love. And one fine day, settling all itsy-bitsy problems – they tie the wedding knot, hoping to fight the entire world in order to keep the relationship intact forever. But the real shock comes only post this ‘merry’ episode. Their love takes a backseat (in the last row) and their mismatched opinions come to the fore warning them of being unable to get along with each other. Everyday mushrooming arguments hit the last straw and out emerges a feeling that begs them to fight the entire world in order to break away from each other! Isn’t that paradoxical?
Now read this: A girl and a guy are completely smitten by each other. They fight, they argue and they love. They plan their marriage, kids, careers, future. They again fight, again argue and again love. And one fine day, they settle for parting ways. For, they have had such a time together that has ensured them of their inability to spend the rest of their lives with each other. An intelligent decision! Or the ‘silliest’ one!
Now, tell me which situation is safer and better? Undoubtedly, the second one! But why? Because the couple estranged before experiencing the tougher days after marriage? Or because ‘all’s well that ends well’? On the flip side, I strongly believe that both the situations are equally bad; though the first instance hits the ‘victims’ harder, as escape comes their way only in the long run and the second situation gives them a chance to start their respective lives afresh. But a separation even before getting hitched (and after good-long years of courtship) hurts as much as a ‘love marriage’ turning into a failure. Believe it or not, it is a venomous fact that always remains thus, without any change in the ‘menu’ ever.
The couples failed in love or love marriages always - consciously or unconsciously - abode a feeling deep inside that ‘love’ is not eternal; like everything else, it dies too! And thus, the ‘newcomers’ find themselves at a loss. They scrutinize all the pros and cons before falling for someone. And there is absolutely no guarantee if that so-called ‘assessment’ is worth it or not! As they say, history repeats itself…
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