Does your dad write your resumes? Is your mom always accompanying you to a career counseling or a job fair? Do your parents go to the extent of calling up employers to inquire the reasons of your rejection? If yes, you have helicopter parents.
Wondering What does that mean? Despite the fact that you live with them, you don’t realise who they are and what they are doing to you. Though they are not seen in every family (of course, exceptions are always there), yet can be witnessed in every third house in your neighbourhood.
They are the hovering parents…snooping in all your matters with command, wrestling your combats for you, flooring your paths, guarding you at any cost. To cut a long story short, you are absolutely dependent on them, in every respect. Even if you want to step ahead on your own, they won’t allow! They still take you as ‘kids’ and will make sure you walk according to the ‘baby steps’ designed by them. Such ‘pushy’ parents are termed as ‘helicopter parents’.
The intention at the back of such parents’ heads is that of the love and care they hold for their broods, which turn them over-protective; it has consequences but results.
It’s an agonising situation for a parent to witness his or her child fall short. If truth were told, it is one of the most exigent pictures for a parent to experience. And in such scenarios, the parent needs to be tough in order to provide enough room for his child to be stronger and get prepared for even bigger challenges. But more often than not, they follow the opposite track and fall into the category of helicopter parents.
An advice to the helicopter parents
Today’s parents need to understand one simple thing – being protective for your kids is good, but getting over-protective may (will) attack their individual growth. Such treatment develops various shortcomings in your children’s personality – they can’t put up with a failure, they can’t survive a challenge etc (you name it and they have it!). Rather, give them some space so that they learn the most important lesson of life – to get to the top of the escalator, you need to climb up the first step yourself, making way for further steps. Afterall, getting up to make another try for a success after a fall is the best way to fight a life-battle and win it too.
4 comments:
As an educator there is nothing as growth stiffling as a helicopter parent. Great article.
hey,,,I lykd this one the best... I have come across many such cases in and around, but I didnt know the whole concept that went behind it...gud effort!!
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